I've been nitpicking on the phrase "laissez-faire sex" for half-an-hour now trying to achieve "moksha" sans kama sutra. *wink*
The curiosity started after reading the article "Is Food the New Sex?" by Mary Eberstadt.
Here are my train of thoughts on this matter as I quibble on the euphemism..
Laissez-faire, imho, is an economic policy/doctrine that shuns government out of trade and entrepreneurship. So what the ef does the government has to do with sex (even if there are a lot of screwin'round done in politics)?!
Consulting the www, I came up with several explanations/definitions of laissez-faire.
Laissez-faire is French for "let do". Hmmmnn..okay, consulting the example given by Eberstadt, "She has even been known to watch pornography with her boyfriend, at his coaxing, in part to show how very laissez-faire she is."
So, does this mean laissez-faire sex means letting your partner do things [s/he wants] to you, that liking it or not does not matter..? I don't like the idea of it. Imagine having sex just for the pleasure of your partner and not yours..? That's not a very symbiotic relationship. =P
Laissez-faire is French for "leave alone". Leave alone sex sounds more like masturbation with this translation, so no, it does not jive with the example given either.
An online friend, let's call her Desire, then gave her two cents, after I asked for it since racking through my brain is not enough, that on the example given by the researcher, she interpreted it as a homophone for "lazy". Of course that made me LOL.
Laissez-faire on economics and finance, is a policy/doctrine dictating a minimum of governmental interference in the economic affairs of individuals and society. I kinda hit the spot, but not quite..Yey!
An open market sex, as Warped (author of Charmaine and Fucking Nadia) pointed out. But market equates to trade, I said. Then I swayed for it, since
Laissez-faire is a policy of allowing events to take its own course with minimal intervention. With this definition, I came up with spontaneous sex (read: HOT!). Two people meet, get a good stare (inventory? hmm) at each other, then, wham-bham-kabaam! He lights up a cig while she sleeps. Okay, I know we're getting in a kinkier side of sex, but it's not the definition that Eberstadt implies with her example.
Then it dawned on me, what if we take the defintion of economics' laissez-faire, minus the economics..?
Laissez-faire sex is having sex sans restrictions. (oh, I know I'm good..huh..?)
A definition to which "Rac" has the balls to ask, "Is there such a thing as restricted sex?" to which witty goddess kink_gurl (author of Tom and Adrea and The Date With A Stranger) replied, "There is such a thing as restricted sex. Isn't it called bondage?"
Drat! Why haven't I thought about that frickin' pun! Gawd, I'm getting rusty! Good thing we're having this orgy, screw mind masturbation! LOL!
Increasing my karma, still trying to achieve nirvana (which made me wonder since I'm an agnostic, most prolly through plurking), and came up with *drum rolls* "Laissez-faire sex is the freedom to pursue or have sex with noninterference to the affairs of others." How's that for the definition of laissez-faire sex?
